Thursday, June 6, 2013

Proverbs 31

Last night at church, one of my favorite people spoke to the young adult class about Proverbs 31. If you were raised in church, or have been in church for any length of time, you've most likely heard all about being a Proverbs 31 Woman. More often than not, the Proverbs 31 Woman is considered to be perfect.  She cooks, she cleans, she works in the field, she sews, she has babies, she sells trades, she gives to the poor, I mean hello; she's the original Superwoman! However, perfect is far from the truth of this passage. As you probably already know, NO one is perfect except God and He wouldn't set us up for failure.


Proverbs 31:10-31
{NKJV}
10 Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.


While it may seem after reading that passage that we all need to strive to be the "perfect" Proverbs 31 Woman, rest assured that is not the case! God didn't call us all to sew, to cook every meal flawlessly, or to be Farmer Jane. (thank goodness!) He does however, call us to fear God, love Him deeply and passionately, to trust, and to be submissive, just like the Proverbs 31 Woman. Her relationship with God came before anything else in her life. She put God first and foremost and that made the rest of her life thrive!

Personally, I wouldn't make the cut if I was supposed to be the perceived "perfect" Proverbs 31 Woman. I burn instant mashed potatoes, I'd sew my fingers together before I could get a button put back in place, and I don't think I could make something grow if my life depended on it! But, because of His grace, I can strive to be a submissive, God-fearing woman and to keep Him first in my life. God has never asked anyone to do something that was impossible. A task may seem impossible in our own strength, but as Matthew 19:26 says, "with God all things are possible." And that includes being a "Proverbs 31 Woman." Not perfect by any means, but simply a woman of God, who keeps her focus on Him.

Happy Thursday!
XoXo
-AK

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Never Ever Ever

Hey, y'all!! 
Today is the first week of the Never Ever Ever link-up and I think it is going to be SO fun! 




I Never Ever Ever...

 -pass on ice cream. 

-would rather call than text. 

-turn down a shopping trip. 

-would say "I hate shoes." 

-would rather wear a t-shirt 

-think my hair is too big.

-want to grab food at Taco Bell.

-  would not shop on the clearance rack. 

-choose running over a movie date 

-get tired of watching FRIENDS 


What's on your your Never Ever Ever list?! Link up and let us know!!

Happy Tuesday!! 
XoXo
-AK  


Monday, June 3, 2013

Random AK

Want to know the random thoughts swirling around in my head today? Well, here you go. Random at it's finest.
{p.s. if you follow me on twitter, you probably already saw most of this.}

I'm so tired today. I'm not even sure why, expect that it's Monday.

I'm house sitting this week for some friends while they're on vacation.
Technically, I'm dog sitting, but I get to stay at their house so it's house sitting too, right? C made me Pioneer Woman's Ice coffee before she left. *heavenly* I was so excited about it, I got up and fixed me a big cup this morning with some La Lechera, and left it sitting right on the counter. I didn't even notice until I was about to park at work. FAIL.
I'm also not sure if I put up the baby gate for the dog. They keep him in the laundry room while they're away so he doesn't roam the entire house.  That could mean that the Ace is currently destroying all the couch pillows. I'm going to go home at lunch to double check. I don't think my brain functions at 6:30am.

I have the shopping bug. Problem is, my bank account won't like me if I give in to my addiction. Shoes are always at the top of my list and I think I need some new heels. I've been browsing the world wide web all morning and that is going to get me into some serious trouble.

I started watching the new Dallas series last night. I've only gotten through episode 3 and I'm hooked. Seriously, if you haven't watched it, go turn on Netflix and have yourself a Dallas party. It's fantastic.

I get in "music genre moods" and they last for weeks at a time. I will listen to nothing but country for about a month or two. Then, I get tired of it and switch to another genre for a while. It's a back and forth cycle.

My hair is gross today. I have days like yesterday when my curls look fantastic. Then, there are days like today when my hair is the epitome of a hot mess. Curls are so annoying. You never know how they're going to turn out.

I have 5 books on my summer reading list. Most of them are "fun" books.

-Girls in White Dresses
-Have him at Hello
-MWF seeking BFF
-Coming Home
-The Chance
Have you read any of these and have a review? Do you have any more I should add to my list? Let me know!

I want to plan another Braves game adventure in the very near future. Anyone want to join me?! NO week night games, though. 

Well, that's about all of the random that I can produce today.
Have a fabulous Monday!!

XoXo
-AK

Friday, May 31, 2013

Take me out to the ballgame...

Baseball is my second favorite sport. Football being first, of course, like any good Southern girl. I jump at any chance to attend a sporting event, so when my friends decided to plan a Braves game, I was all for it!  
I thought we were planning a Friday night game and I could stay the weekend with Jess since she lives in the ATL. But, of course that would be too normal. Instead it was a Thursday night game, because it was Freddie Freeman bobble head night. I mean, who doesn't want a Freddie bobble head?! I still don't have one because if you arrive to a game in the bottom of the 5th, chances are you aren't one of the first 20,000 fans.

You see, I live about 2 hours away from Atlanta, give or take a little bit. I don't get off work until 5:30pm, and the game started at 7pm. At the last minute, I actually managed to get off a little early so I could be on time for the game, but I had a few challenges getting out of town. Something happened with my car insurance and I had to go by the insurance office and get it straightened out. That resulted in me not being able to leave until about 6pm.
I can't make this stuff up. Only I could manage to get off work early and still leave town later that I would have in the beginning.

{our pic was photobombed. hilarious.}
Once we finally got the game and the boys stopped giving us heck about being so late, we had a fabulous time! The Bravos won 11-3 over the Bluejays. Finally, they actually played a good game!
Jess and I got to spend a little BFF one-on-one time at Steak 'N Shake after the game and that was much needed! After we finished our late night dinner, we headed back to her place and I then headed home.
It was about 2:30 when I finally pulled into my driveway. I did have to stop once for caffeine, and I also turned up the radio as loud as I could possibly stand for a few minutes, but I think it was totally worth being tired  exhausted today. I'm not going to be young forever, so why not be crazy and spontaneous since I'm still young and single?!

{Ryan, me, Jess, and TJ}

 
Have you ever been on any crazy, spontaneous trips?

Happy Friday!!

XoXo,
AK

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Friendships.

Friday night as I sat on the side of the road waiting on my brother in law to come rescue me from a flat tire, which he's been so gracious to do numerous times, I realized two things. One, that I need to learn to change a flat tire completely ASAP. I work at an automotive repair shop and I cannot even change my own tire. There's a problem with that if you ask me. The second thing I realized as I sent out texts, phone calls, tweets and snap chats is something that my sister has been telling me for years. {I hate more than anything to admit that my sister is right. i just absolutely hate it.}  It sank in as I finally was able to drive home crying, that I don't have any friends.

I guess not having any friends at all is a stretch, but I don't have many. I'm the type of friend who would drop anything I'm doing and rush to help you in any way I could. I know that people show their love and friendship in different ways, but I also know that friendships cannot be one sided and work for very long. And by the way, I don't want this to come off as me boasting or giving myself a pat on the back or looking for anything like that, because in no way is that what this post is for. However, I do want to give a few examples of what I'm talking about.

I've helped my best friend and her sister move at least 3 times in the 4 years we've been friends.
I've driven over 45 minutes one way after work one night because a "friend" was stuck with no gas, and no money and was still about 30/45 minutes away from college so I filled up his gas tank and gave him money for dinner.
I've driven 2 hours to stay with one of my closest friends for a night because a dumb boy broke her heart and she needed me. Even though I had to be back at work the next morning.
I made the friendship with the girl who was my "best friend" from middle school/high school work. She never did anything but make excuses for why she couldn't do something, or make it to an important event. I drove the 30 miles to see her WAY more times than she drove to me. Which is like most friends I have.
I go to events that are important to others like it's my job.
I give presents for everything.
I'm a professional "sandpaper" friend and tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
I spend more miles on the road visiting friends who wouldn't consider coming to see me if I paid for the gas.

While I'm NOT a perfect friend and I don't always go the extra mile, I do think I'm a pretty decent friend for the most part. Lots of times I forget to call people, or I get busy and don't plan visits, or I go out and forget to call all of my local friends. I realize that no one is perfect, but there comes a time you realize that if you're doing ALL the work, it's probably not much of a friendship. I know I have flaws just as much as the next person, and that's why I hate writing this blog. I'm just saying that I know that friendships take work, and I'm willing to do that. Not everyone is. I've always thought that I have lots of friends, because I make friends quickly and easily! {totally different from high school! i once was shy as can be!} But, the thing I can't figure out how to decipher is the difference between a close and true friend, and an acquaintance or associate. 

I struggle to get friends to come visit me.
I struggle to get friends to show up for birthday parties 90% of the time.
 {ok, the christmas birthday could have something to do with that one.}
I struggle to get friends to invite me places.
I struggle to feel included in general.

I can probably count on one hand the number of friends that I actually have that would be there if I needed something. Only a couple of those people live here in the CSRA. The rest live in Atlanta/Athens/Franklin Springs area. None of my friends live here and that's so frustrating to me. I hate that I have to drive to see my friends all the time. I can't call them to hang out or go to the movies unless one of us are going to drive 2 hours. Not that I wouldn't, or those special few wouldn't, but it's harder when you're far away.

I've always heard the statement "it's better to have one true friend, than all the acquaintances in the world," but I never realized the truth found in what that says until now. True friends are the ones that never leave your side, and always drop everything to make sure you're okay. They come to where you are, no matter how far the distance. Acquaintances are the ones that care via Facebook, or if they happen to run into you somewhere. Basically, they care from a distance. They want to be sure you're okay, but don't want it to inconvenience them at all. 

While I'm blessed with a handful of true friends, and have acquired some acquaintances along the way, none of them compare to my wonderful and fun spirited family! We all gossip about each other, pick on each other, yell at each other, get mad and frustrated with each other, but at the end of the day I know they are the ones I can count on the most. They are true to the core friends! I've never ever ever been in trouble where I couldn't call someone in my family and they come running to my rescue. I can't count the number of times they've been my lifesaver. They let me learn my lesson if I mess up, but they do that with love. I can't begin to imagine where'd I'd be without their unconditional, and often harsh but needed, love that I take for granted daily. Like a lot of people, I don't say thank you enough, or spend as much time as I should with them, but I'm learning and growing every day.

I know your 20's is the discovering years. You find out who you are, who your friends are, what you're going to do with your life, where you're going, and you learn lesson after lesson, and most often you learn those lessons the hard way. As much as I want to say I hate this season of life, I'm also very thankful for it. Without it, I wouldn't grow, learn or make mistakes. And, that's what this season of life is all about.

How did you realize who your "true" friends were?
Hopefully it didn't take you as long as it did me!


XoXo,
AK 


Monday, May 27, 2013

Let go of "supposed to"

I stumbled on this blog post today and it hit me square in the face. Everyone needs to go read it. Right now.


And while you're at it, read this one too. I want the book as soon as it comes out.

Happy Monday and Happy Memorial Day!
XoXo,
AK

Thursday, May 16, 2013

It's OK Thursday!

Who's ready for a little It's OK Thursday? Haven't linked up in a while, so here we go! 


It's OK ...

...to absolutely love when you're family gets together 


...to have a milkshake for lunch 

...to cry when you're frustrated 

...to not be happy sometimes 

...to love twitter more than facebook 

...to laugh too much 

...to use retail therapy to de-stress even if you don't buy anything. 

...that blogging makes me feel better 

...to be jealous sometimes 

...to overuse snapchat 

...to be excited for my "little sisters" graduation tomorrow night

...to never pay full price for anything

...to love Braves baseball

...to have a hard time not "spilling the beans" when I know exciting news 

What's OK with you today?! 

Link up with Neely and Amber and let us know! 

Happy Thursday!! 
XoXo
-AK